What Would It Be Like to Live a Life With No Judgment? 

Simone Milasas

Have you always known, or at least hoped, that something greater was possible for yourself, for others, for the world? Are you someone who has points of view that differ from most of the people around you? Would you consider yourself a seeker? Are you someone that is motivated, perhaps even driven, to live life to the fullest, create joyful possibilities and dare I say, even change the world? Me too, and for a long time, all of my unique perspectives, desire for more than a husband, kids and white picket fence, left me wondering, “What the heck is wrong with me?” 

There I was, wandering around a Mind, Body and Spirit Festival in Sydney, Australia in 2002. The Festival was filled with various offerings, things meant to fix, heal and change you. “Buy this crystal. Get a transformational reading here. Try these affirmation cards.” Endless were the methods. Less than helpful were the results. I know because I tried so many things. The continuous internal nag that sensed that there was more to this life than I had yet seen, the deep knowing that something else had to be possible was relentless, so I kept trying. It was at this Festival that I met the Founder of Access Consciousness®, Gary Douglas. I knew his name. I had heard of Access Consciousness® too. What I did not know was that my life was about to drastically change. What I was soon to discover is that something greater IS possible and that having and creating it is far easier than one might think. My seeking days were about to be over. My living to the fullest days were about to begin. 

Gary Douglas was offering a class that evening on the one topic I did not care about at all: relationships. But it did not matter. Earlier that day, I had a conversation with Gary that intrigued me, and I wanted to hear him talk. As the class kicked off, I was instantly captivated. Gary was funny, irreverent, he swore, I loved it.“Don’t trust me. Trust yourself,” Gary said early in his talk. It was a striking contrast to most speakers who push their own advice. His words, “Don’t trust me. Trust yourself,” felt like a breath of fresh air rushing through an open window. At this particular time in my life, I knew I did not want a relationship. I enjoyed business. I found travel fulfilling. The idea of settling down with one person and living in one place was abhorrent to me, and somewhere in the background, I wondered what was wrong with me. Why couldn’t I be like everyone else? But this call to trust myself instantly peeled away layers of self-doubt that had been weighing me down. It was okay for me to have a different point of view. I was trustworthy in navigating my life in the way I desired. Talk about a paradigm shift. 

Gary went on to say, “Everything I am talking about here is designed to empower you to know that you know™.” And, one of my personal favorites, “You are not nearly as fucked up as you think you are.” Before even leaving class that night, my world was beginning to change. I started looking at what actually works for me and when the event ended, I left with a big smile on my face because for the very first time, I knew that I was not wrong, that I could trust me and that I had the power to create anything I desired. Yes, that all happened in less than an hour and a half. Life is a journey with its share of challenges for sure, but that evening, I set foot on a new path—one that transformed my life into something more joyful and beautiful than I could have ever imagined, and I have had the extra bonus of empowering others to do the same. Changing one point of view changes your entire experience in life. We are all literally only one choice from change. 

Having received so much after just one class, obviously I was hooked and desired more. I quickly signed up for another class called “Out of the Box”. The main topic was about living a life without judgment. “Wow,” I thought, “what would a life with no judgment even look like?” Most of us spend our entire lives in a litany of self-judgment. We wake up in the morning, look at ourselves in the mirror and jump straight into judging our bodies, our money or lack thereof, our relationships, our families, our choices. What if we stopped? What would that change? What would it be like if we lived in a world where no one judged themselves or their choices? As I was contemplating this new perspective, I stepped outside onto Oxford Street in Sydney, Australia. I felt light headed and dizzy so I sat down. The energy of this conversation, the idea of a world without judgment, this was the very thing I desired for my life and the world that up until this point, no one had put into words. The knowing that something else had to be possible. The intense desire to create a different reality on this planet and in fact change the world, this is what I always desired and for the first time in my life, I no longer hoped that it was possible. I KNEW. 

Consciousness has become a bit of a buzz word and although it is often discussed, most people do not have an actual definition of what it means. The definition that I was given in Access Consciousness® is: Consciousness is where everyone and everything is included and no one and nothing is left out™. That is another way of saying, consciousness is the space that is entirely devoid of judgment. 

There is much more to the story and the continuation of my journey with Access Consciousness®, but for now I invite you to an exploration. Imagine one of your favorite places in nature. It could be a beach, a forest, a park, a hiking trail, or maybe it’s sitting under your favorite tree. Tap into how your body feels in that place. Do you feel calm? Relaxed? At ease? Do you breathe a little deeper? Are your shoulders more relaxed? Nature is what consciousness feels like in your body. Nature does not judge. It does not exclude. Nature simply is. What would it be like to live every moment of your life in this space of ease and joy? What would the world be like if we all chose that? A world of no judgment begins with you. Every time you choose gratitude, judgment melts away. Every time you choose to trust what you know, you are empowered and you invite others to the same. When you are faced with trying to fit in and live the way others have decided is appropriate, but you choose to do what works for you instead, you create more joy in your world which expands to others. Every choice you make creates and the more you choose consciousness, the more you  include all things and judge no things, the more the world you have imagined becomes a reality. You might say that I am a dreamer. I am not the only one. What else is possible here that we have never considered. We have only just begun!